Sunday, August 7, 2016

How to Get Breastfeeding Off to a Good Start and My Sunday Best at 40weeks Not Pregnant or Ten Days Postpartum

It's my due date and I'm so glad to have my baby on the outside.  Ten days old already! (Read her birth story).

We joke that birth is probably the last thing she will be early for.  For the next 18 years anyway.  Punctuality is not our forte.   

Here is what Annika and I wore on this fine Sunday.  See Rosie for more Sunday Best


Just ignore the mirror smudges. 

The shirt is a maternity shirt from Wal-Mart.  The skirt is just a plain, jersey skirt from who knows wear.  Still wearing my oh so sexy compression stockings. 

Confession:I'm going to keep wearing several of my maternity shirts well into the postpartum period and beyond. Not all of them, but the stretchy fitted ones that look okay even without a big belly.  I have a fairly long torso, so it's hard for me to find shirts that are both long and fitted enough for my taste.   Several of my maternity shirts seem to fit that bill. So yes, I'm going to keep wearing them. 

Today is also the last day of World Breastfeeding Week.  

Since a good bit of my last week was spent either breastfeeding, thinking about breastfeeding or troubleshooting breastfeeding, it seemed to appropriate to write about breastfeeding. 

This is my 5th go-round with a newborn and I've learned a thing or two about making breastfeeding easier in the early days.   

Here is my best advice for those first few days and weeks.

Newborns nurse ALL THE TIME.   That is NOT an exaggeration.  At times, it literally is ALL THE TIME.  After Annika was born, she latched on, and basically nursed almost continually for the next 5 hours.   Since she was born, she has periods during the day when she nurses constantly (switching back and forth between sides) for a few hours, and then there are times she sleeps for a few hours and doesn't nurse much.  It's all normal. There are no regular intervals. 

My best advice, nurse EVERY TIME that baby opens it's mouth in the first few days.  It helps your milk come in and helps both you and the baby figure out breastfeeding quicker.  The sooner your milk comes in, the sooner the baby will start regaining birth weight, the more they poop and the less you have to worry about.  I've always nursed VERY FREQUENTLY in the first few days, and I've always had my milk start to come in by day two. 

Oh and when the nurses ask about the last time they nursed and for how long....just laugh. Just laugh and laugh.  It's a silly question.    It deserves a silly response. (Of course if they lock you up for being crazy when you do that, it's not my fault).   Don't worry about sides or how long the baby nursed for.  Just nurse very frequently on both sides as soon as the baby shows any cues or desire or willingness to do so. 

Here is a great article which talks more about the myth of the breastfeeding interval.

Use a Nipple Cream.   I had to learn this the hard way, but don't wait until your nipples are sore to start using a nipple cream.  Personally, I like to use a lanolin cream and APNO  I use after every feed and APNO three times a day. 

Pay Attention to Latch.  This is probably the biggest thing.  But really pay attention to the baby's latch and work on correcting it. See a lactation consultant, contact La Leche League, but do something if you are having pain and soreness.   Sore nipples are the most common complaint in the early weeks, so don't ignore sore nipples.

Find a pediatrician who knows about lip and tongue tie.  This is really important I think.  So many pediatricians are not familiar with ties.  Our pediatrician is and told me that Annika has an upper lip tie and slight tongue tie.  Right now we are in wait and see, to see about clipping them.  She is latching on fine and getting plenty of milk, but I am dealing with some soreness.  We are seeing if that will go away in another week or so, or if we should clip it before then. 

Find something fun to do while nursing.   This is the perfect time to binge-watch a new show on Netflix, or read your favorite fluff.  Having something "fun" to do while nursing, helps a lot when they nurse ALL the time!

Keep going, it gets easier.  Sore nipples, engorgement.  It really does all get easier.   A lot of moms break breastfeeding down into small, managable goals.  Two weeks, 4 weeks, 6 weeks. As each milestone passes, it gets easier and easier. 

What about you?  Do you have any tips for those first few days and weeks?

Saturday, July 30, 2016

Annika's birth story. The one in which I defy the nurse and say crazy stuff.

Annika Amelia was born on July 28th, 2016 at 7:46 P.M.  She weighed 7 lbs, 7 oz.  This is her story.

My due date was August 7th.   Three-fourths of my other children were born exactly 10 days before their expected due date.  Elsa was thirteen days early .  So, it's wasn't quite a shock when at 7:00 AM on the morning of July 28th (10 days early) that my water broke.

My husband had a job interview that morning.  So, all along, while I suspected the baby might be born that day, I was really, really, really hoping she would hold off until after the job interview.   In fact that night was pretty stressful.  I kept waking up and thinking "we need to make it 6 more hours."  "Only four more hours." 

And then my water broke, but contractions still hadn't started yet, so off he went.

July 28th also happens to be the birthday of my dear, departed grandmother.  The name we were originally thinking of was Annika Rose.  Except, my mother was pushing us to name her Annika Amelia if she happened to be born on July 28th since Amelia is my grandmother's name and the person for whom I was named.

So much of that day was spent arguing over if it was going to be Annika Rose, Annika Amelia or Annika Rose Amelia.  I know lots of Catholics do it, but I am personally not a fan of the whole three names thing.  Even when we left for the hospital, we still weren't sure.  It wasn't until she was born, that we were sure.




 I had barely any contractions most of the day.  We even went into the OB/midwife office to be checked and confirm if my water had indeed broke.  Their tests were inconclusive (2 were negative, 1 was positive), but I KNEW it had broken.  You don't get that many gushes for nothing.   Since I still wasn't in labor, we went home, with instructions to come in again the next morning if still no labor and to eat and rest that night.

I ended up not getting much rest that night.

Around, 4:30 PM, I started to feel contractions.  By 5:00 PM, I could no longer just sit through them and had to walk around.   I retreated to our dark bedroom with all kids banished away, and was more than happy to labor by myself and walk through all the contraction in the peace and quite.  It was super nice and made me really, really wish I had chosen homebirth again this time.  (Read about why not.)  In fact, I was kinda wondering if there were any midwives I could call at the last minute to come.  But, I didn't think that was too likely so instead I kept evaluating in my mind when we should head to the hospital. Did I mention that the hospital was 25 minutes away and I was having the kind of contractions where sitting down in the car for 25 minutes sounded like just about the most horrible thing ever.  I wanted to do nothing more than walk around (and around and around) through all of them.

Around 6:00 I decided we needed to leave soon, or I wasn't going to make it.  We left around 6:35 and got to the hospital around 7:00 PM  The car ride was pretty uncomfortable, although I still didn't think I was that close.   I don't think of myself as the kind of person who has quick births.....although my last birth was quick, the first three were NOT quick.   In fact, when I called the midwife on call, I even told her not to rush.

THAT was a mistake.

Going through all the intake stuff, and being checked and going through registration while having really strong contractions really close together was absolutely miserable.

I was really missing the peace of my last homebirth.

Around 7:15 we got into the labor and delivery room and the nurse checked me.  She said I was a 5.  I was all thinking "no way,  these contractions are way too strong for a 5.  I feel way past that."

For the next 30 minutes of labor, that little 5 haunted me. I thought I had hours and hours of excrutiating labor ahead of me.  It was terrifying.

At one point I had to go to the bathroom and came out and said.

"I think I want the epidural".   Crazy thing #1.   Not that having an epidural is crazy.  But, if she hadn't told me about that I was only a 5, I probably would have realized how close I was.   I was actually thinking about an epidural even before I went into labor.  I suspect this may be my last birth and I've only had natural births.  I sorta wanted to see how the other half births. I still don't know.

The nurse said that would take about 30 minutes because they have to give you IV fluids and put an IV in.  The thought of lying down on the bed for 30 minutes was incomprehensible to me, so I was all "oh forget it."

I HAD to be on my feet and walking around. It was REALLY painful.  I think because my water had already broken, it was more painful than previous labors.  My least painful birth was the one where my water broke right before pushing.

 Then I started to feel lots of pressure.  Lots of urges to push.  I couldn't tell if it was poop or baby.

Turns out it was both.

I squatted down next to the bed and started pushing.

Then I said "Dude, I'm like pooping on the floor."  Crazy thing #2.   Yes, I actually said "dude" and "like."

Ben was really good and actually helped clean me up, while the nurse was just all "Do you feel like pushing, you need to get into the bed, so I can check you."

No way was I getting into the bed.  I just ignored her and kept pushing.

After just a few pushes, I had that baby's head is right there feeling and just said.

"Baby's coming." 

The nurse was all "If baby is coming, you need to get into bed, and I'll get Lindsay (midwife).  Don't push."

Plus, I was kinda ticked off because "they" said I could birth in whatever position I wanted.   Apparently the nurse hadn't gotten the memo.

No way was getting into bed or not pushing.  NO WAY.   

Birth waits for neither man nor midwife. 

I've been through this rodeo enough times to know that the only way out is through, and once you get to the pushing part, it's almost over.   I was NOT about to prolong the agony any longer.

At that point, the nurse must have called some code, because the next thing I knew there were a ton of nurses in the room and they told me that the head was out, but they saw a cord, so I needed to lie down.

So, I just lied back on the floor, they slipped the cord off her neck and she was born the rest of the way.

Official time of birth was 7:46 PM .  Just 30 minutes after I was only a 5. 

THEN I got into bed and the midwife was there to help deliver the placenta and rather apologetic for missing the actual birth.  I didn't care.  She came out, just fine.

And here she is!



It was a hard pregnancy and hard birth, but she's worth it!

Even though the hospital was a major pain and the made us CARRY THE CONVERTIBLE CAR SEAT UP TO THE ROOM AND CARRY THE BABY OUT IN THE CONVERTIBLE CAR SEAT.   Ridiculous!!  At least we got to leave after 24 hours. Hospitals always feel a little like jail to me.  Except the food is probably better.  And you get to leave sooner. 


So that's her story!

Tuesday, July 19, 2016

Eloquent Elsa


This is Elsa.  She will be 4 in September.  She talks A LOT and says all sorts of crazy things.



Talking to Greta:

When you were younger and your name was Elsa, you liked that toy.




Talking to Greta:

Greta: Elsa, you should hate the color pink.                           
 Elsa: But, I'm not you yet.

After the UPS man delivers a package:

I love that man. 


                                                        


She loves her pets.

George (dog) is my daddy and Zorro (cat) is my mommy.

When I grow up, I'm going to marry George.  (by the time she grows up, you will probably be able to do that...legally).

Whenever someone says something she doesn't like:

THANKS A LOT! (in a total sarcastic tone).

Random question:

When will my bones come out?




When leaving with Daddy to go someplace:

Bye George, Bye Zorro, Bye Mommy Amelia

After running a race with her siblings:

My hair is fast.

After coming in from playing in her kiddie pool: 

 GUESS WHAT, I DIDN'T DROWN!!!

This is NOT our kiddie pool

After asking if she can have chocolate chips in her (plain, homemade yogurt):  

And I want TOO MUCH chocolate chips.



After John asked to stay up and read:

N-O spells NO.  You get what you get.

When talking about where various family members were born. 

I was born in Frozen.  (actually she was born in Florida, which is pretty much the opposite of Frozen, a  year before that dratted movie came out).  

Sunday, July 3, 2016

Trying Something New - The Special Delivery Baby Hammock


I’ve tried baby swings.  I’ve tried bouncy chairs.  I’ve even tried cribs and bassinets.   I’ve never really found a good solution for helping a baby sleep alone for very long.

Sleep issues with babies seem to be almost ubiquitous.  Everyone just expects the newborn phase to be full of sleep deprivation.  Everyone eagerly awaits the time until a baby can sleep through the night.   

Everyone expects the first few months to be hard, until the parents train the baby to sleep through the night in the crib. I've never felt comfortable with cry-it-out methods, so that's just not I something I do.  No judgement on those who do, but I'm personally not comfortable with that.  

Granted, I’ve heard of babies that are just naturally good sleepers.  I’ve heard of babies who are happy to sleep in a crib.  I’ve heard of babies who sleep 20 hours a day, straight from birth and are still sleeping 14 hours a day at 3 years of age.  None of those babies every came out of my uterus.

By the 5th kid, I’ve given up hope of ever getting a naturally good sleeper that just loves the crib and will happily sleep in there alone for hours. 

Co-sleeping has saved my nighttime sanity.  Thanks to co-sleeping, I’ve never felt sleep-deprived or had to get up at night.  I’ve never really felt like I had nighttime sleep issues thanks to co-sleeping.   Usually by about 4 months of age or so, I’ll nurse my babies down to sleep in bed, and they will stay asleep in there for around 2 hours until I go to bed, and then they sleep next to me for the rest of the night.

That has always worked just fine for me, and I don’t anticipate changing anything.

Naps on the other hand are a totally different story.  I’ve always struggled with naps.  See, babies don’t like to sleep alone.  Babies don’t like to sleep on hard surfaces after being all nice and snuggly in the womb. Babies DO like to fall asleep nursing.  That means that basically every single nap involved my baby falling asleep nursing, and then me trying to lay them down to sleep someplace else, and it almost never working.  Not for very long anyway. Babies go through these sleep cycles, so baby would fall asleep nursing, I’d wait like 20 minutes until they were really in a DEEP sleep, lay them down, and they’d wake up 10 minutes later. 

Not fun.

With my first three, I was able to solve this problem by doing most of the home nursing while lying down in bed and then managing to sneak away.  It worked best with the first baby, not bad with the second and only so, so with the third.  By the fourth child, this didn’t work at all.  In fact Elsa was pretty much the WORST NAPPER EVER.  I mean, if they gave out awards for these things, she would definitely win.   

Different house set-ups make nursing in bed more complicated.  Having older kids that are homeschooling makes it WAY more complicated.  In our current house, it would be VERY difficult. 

The bedrooms are upstairs, we homeschool downstairs and I can’t retreat to the bedroom every time the baby wants to nurse. Not with homeschooling and working at home.  Not going to work.

The only way Elsa would get a good nap in, was if I sat there and held her for the entire time or put her in a baby carrier.  

Maybe that works for some people, but it didn’t work that well for me. I'm not a fan of being stuck on the couch for an hour or two at a time, and I while I love babywearing while shopping or walking or out in public, I'm never had great success doing cooking or laundry or cleaning while babywearing. 

Enter, the latest thing I’m super excited to try.  The Special Delivery Baby Hammock.

Actually, it’s not a new invention, it’s very old.  People have been sleeping babies in hammocks for a very long time.  You see ancient people seemed to know something that even the American Academy of Pediatrics can’t seem to grasp.  Babies don’t like to sleep alone, on hard, flat, immobile surfaces.  

For all their recommendations of babies sleeping alone, on their back, in a crib….they seem to forget that babies don’t like that.  Babies don’t sleep well that way.  Well maybe some do, but many don’t. Which is why so many parents end up "breaking" the rules....with tummy sleeping or co-sleeping or whatever.

I first heard about baby hammocks many years ago (probably at least 10) when someone, on some message board on the Internet, mentioned using the Amby bed.   I hadn’t really given it much thought as that time, co-sleeping and my nursing lying down method was still working with my 2nd.

Then when I got pregnant with the 5th, I started remembering how horrid naptime was with the 4th.  

I started thinking of different solutions.  I remembered someone mentioning the Amby so many years ago and off my fingers flew, googling like crazy.  Well, as it turns out the Amby bed was recalled in the US, back in 2010 and is no longer sold here in the states.  Plus, it’s expensive.

In fact, as it turns out, there are very few baby hammocks available for sale here in the good ole' USA.

In all my research, I only came across a few that actually available and sold here in the United States.  There may be some foreign countries that will ship to the USA, but they are all expensive.  

Even the ones sold in the USA are expensive.  

As it also turns out, in general, baby hammocks get VERY good reviews.  Parents swear by how much their baby loves them and how well the baby sleeps in them.  All different brands seem to have overwhelmingly positive reviews in terms of babies actually liking and sleeping in them.  So, I figured there had to be something to this whole baby hammock thing.

One of the biggest benefits, is they seem to help a lot with reflux and colic.  Between the soothing motion and the fact that a baby is lying at an incline, baby hammocks are said to be great for babies with colic or reflux.  

I spend QUITE a bit of time researching brands and types.

I was looking for a few different things, before settling on the Special Delivery Baby Hammock.  I contacted the company and they were kind enough to send me one to try out.  So, in the interest of full disclosure, this is a sponsored post.  But, all opinions contained within are 100% my own.

They sent me this super cute fabric with owls!  I love it!  But the website has lots of choices to choose from.  All hammocks are hand-made by mothers who use them with their own babies.  That's pretty cool.




These are the features that especially drew me to the Special Delivery Baby Hammock.

Price: Many of the baby hammocks I found were upwards of $250-$500.  This one is only be about $125, with shipping.  I like that.  I would never recommend something on my blog that I wouldn’t be willing to buy myself.  And I would NOT be willing to spend that much on a baby hammock, but I would be willing to spend $125.

True Hammock:  There seems to be two different models/styles of baby hammocks sold.  Those that are true hammocks, and those which include a mattress, where it is more like a suspended baby bed.  The ones with the mattress are less safe in my opinion and many recommendations involve not using it after the baby is able to roll around.  Well….that would make it VERY short lived.  And I do not want something that is only going to work for a few months.  The mattress ones seem to pose more of a safety risk (as evidenced by the Amby bed recall) in that a baby *could* roll over and get wedged against the mattress.  Although I’ve also read that those hammocks were used incorrectly.   Who knows?  The Special Delivery Baby Hammock is a true hammock, and it would be VERY difficult for baby to actually roll over in one, since there is no hard flat surface.  It's difficult for an adult to actually roll over in a true hammock.

Also, because it is a true hammock, it eliminates any risk of plagiocephaly, or flat-head syndrome.  The baby is cradled in the fabric, no hard surfaces to cause a flat-head.  And, I do see quite a bit of babies with flat heads around.

Breathable Fabric: The Special Delivery Baby hammock is made entirely of breathable fabric.  No cords or canvas or mattress, so even if a baby did turn their head against the fabric, they would be able to breathe right through it.

Safety: Safety is a big concern of mine.  Honestly, the Special Delivery Baby Hammock seems VERY safe, UNLESS it is use incorrectly.   Putting the baby in it, upside down (so the head is lower than the feet) would be huge no-no.  Hanging it incorrectly could also cause issues.  But, the biggest danger I can see would come from toddlers or other children who may decide to swing it or run into it.  Since it is just hanging down, a person toddler could swing it really hard, and hurt a baby.  So, obviously if you have a child that is likely to do something like that, close supervision would be necessary.  Of course, if you have a child that is likely to hurt a baby, close supervision is necessary anyway.  I feel like all my kids are old enough to learn not to do something like that. 

Adjustable Chain:  I like that you can adjust the height of the hammock, to make it higher up or lower to the ground.  If you were using it with a toddler that could climb out themselves or that would try to climb out, it would probably be best to keep it lower to the ground. 

Longevity:  This hammock says it lasts until baby is between 18 months - two years.   And they even sell a toddler one, which would last until age 4 or 5.  I'm a big fan of longevity.  Any product that only lasts a few months is a no-no in my book.

Actually...I fit Elsa in it (with her legs folded) and she is almost 4.  The instructions say to test with weight in excess of the baby.  Well....an almost 4-year old fits that description.  So, we tested it with her.  She loved it and seemed quite safe and secure and comfortable in there, despite being too long for it.




Installation:  Some hammocks come with frames (which take up a lot of space) but the Special Delivery Baby Hammock comes with a screw to screw into the ceiling. However, the thought of screwing something into the ceiling strikes fear into my heart.  Handypeople we are not.  So, I ended up ordering a door clamp from New Zealand and it works wonderfully. We may still get around to screwing it into our ceiling, but this gave us another option.  You could probably also buy a frame to use with it (or even build one), if so inclined. 




I'm very excited to try it out!  Now, I just need a baby to put in it.

Thirty-five weeks today!! All my other babies were born sometime during the 38th week, so only a few weeks left I hope.   Since I wore this outfit on Sunday, I'm linking up with Rosie for My Sunday Best!



I'm at that point where only a few clothes fit and my wardrobe is somewhat limited.  I'm not one of those people who gets a super cute belly that is all out of in front, so I generally hate pregnancy pictures.   I have a long torso and tend to go all out the side, rather than in front, so I'm super jealous of everyone who gets the super cute ball look. 

I'll keep you posted on how the Special Delivary Baby Hammock works with our new baby! I'm really hoping it provides for some restful naps out of arms!  Maybe I'll even decide to use it at night at times!

Monday, June 6, 2016

Homeschooling, The Good, The Bad and the Ugly.

It's that time of year when homeschooling conferences abound, doe-eyed homeschoolers eagerly look for next year's curriculum, veterans look forward to a long summer's break and new homeshoolers fret and worry over next year's curriculum. 

If you attend any homeschool conferences, motivational speakers abound and there is no shortage of blogs and articles, extolling the virtues and benefits of homeschooling.

And there ARE many virtues and benefits, but it's not always sunshine and roses. 

Homeschooling is hard ya'll. It really is. 

So, I thought I would talk a little bit about the good, the bad and the ugly side of homeschooling.   Of course, any brick and mortar school is also going to have a good, a bad and ugly side.  There is no one perfect educational model, there is only what works best for a particular family/child at a particular time.  And that can definitely change from year to year.

The Good:
  • Builds family closeness.  
  • Helps kids be independent versus peer-dependent.
  • Allows kids to pursue their interests.
  • Takes less time than regular school, so children have more free time for play and other pursuits.
  • Lots of one on one time.
  • Individualized instruction.
  • Easier ability to limit exposure to media.
  • Parent controls the curriculum and what is taught.
  • Friends are made as a family rather than individually...so the entire family gets to know each other.
  • Can work at your own pace.
  • Children can learn how to teach themselves.
  • Lots of flexibility .....can do school any time, anywhere.
  • Can take vacations/trips during off-peak times when other kids are in school.
  • Parents are free to use different education philosophies/models (ie. classical, charlotte-mason, unschooling, etc.).
  • Parents have more control over who and what their children are exposed to. 
  • Lots of freedom.

The Bad:
  • Curriculum and activities and classes cost $$$$. While those same things may be provided by schools for free or cheap (ie. sports, band, chorus, tutors)
  • Take a lot of time and effort on the parent's part.
  • You have to actually teach your kids.
  • That teaching is the equivalent to having a job...so it's like working at home, but without pay.
  • House is much messier and harder to keep clean with everyone in it all day.
  • Is a large commitment.
  • You are solely responsible for child's education.....lots of pressure.
  • Lack of classroom environment and competition (this is more of a concern in the older grades).  Some students are highly motivated by classroom competition for grades. Some students really benefit from the classroom environment with lectures and exchanges of ideas. 
  • Older students may be stuck teaching themselves.
  • It gets more difficult as the student gets older.
  • Harder to run errands, schedule doctor's appointments, etc. with all the children home all day.
  • Due to the nature of homeschool groups, children may form friendships with other children who are not in the same part of town or live a distance away, which makes arranging get togethers more difficult.
  • Sometimes tears are involved.
The Ugly
  • Can mask learning disorders.
  • Quality of education varies greatly from family to family. Some children receive a very high quality education and some do not. 
  • Children's education can suffer during time of family crisis or stress (this is more of an issue with older children).
  • Loneliness can be a real issue.  While children can definitely get plenty of socialization, friendships require more work and are a bit harder.  The parents have to put effort into scheduling social interactions and building friendships.
  • In rare circumstance, it can be used to hide abuse.
  • Lack if diversity. This may or may not be a bad thing, depending on your viewpoint. However, from my experience (having homeschooled in various states/communities) homeschoolers tend to be rather homogenous in terms of racial/cultural/socio-economic background. 
Overall, I love homeschooling.  And many of the "bad" points in my list are only "cans" not "definites".  I think it is a very positive experience for many families.  We have met some of the BEST people through homeschooling.  However, there are some downsides and I think it's important to acknowledge those.  Just like there are downsides of using a brick and mortal school.  Each family has to weigh the pros and cons of each educational model.  That can change from year to year.  For our family, I really like homeschooling in the elementary and middle grades, however I feel the balance (for us) tips more towards using a brick and mortar school for high school.  You can read more about our decision to send our oldest to school next year. 

What about you.  Do you have anything to add to these lists?


Friday, May 27, 2016

Why We're Skipping the Infant Car Seat

There are very few things I consider to be need, needs for a new baby.   Clothes, diapers, a few places to put the baby down (ie. swing, bouncy seat), baby slings and of course a car seat.

The infant car seat seems to be almost universal.  Every has them, everyone uses them. 

Except me that is. 

John is my only child that I really used an infant car seat for.  And it was a heavier one that went up to 35 pounds, so not all that easy to lug around.  

And he actually only slept in it outside of the car on rare occasions, and never past 3 months.  Mostly it just stayed in the car.

With the girls, we went straight to a convertible.  And it worked out fine.  Time goes by fast when you have a baby and the time that the infant seat is more convenient is really short-lived.  With the new baby, I also decided to skip the infant seat and just start with a convertible. 

Here are the reasons we decided to skip the infant seat.

COST:  This is of course the biggest factor. I just don't see the point in buying a seat that only lasts about a year (and the convenience of it is even shorter lived....more on that later) when I can buy a seat for the exact same price that lasts 4-6 years.   It just doesn't make sense.  And car seats are one of those things that you aren't *supposed* to buy used unless it is from someone you trust, because you never know if it has been in an accident or been altered in any way.   Elsa is still using the car seat we bought her when she was born, 3.5 years ago.  And she has about another year in it, although I ended up buying her a higher weight limit harnessed forward facing seat to booster seat and will use her current convertible seat for the new baby in our second car.

Generally with our kids, I rear-face until age 3, forward face/harness until age 6, high-back booster until age 9 and low-back booster until age 12.   The fewer seats we need to get us through that time, the better.   Ideally, I would just use 2.....a convertible seat until age 6 and a high-back booster that convrts into a low-back booster from age 6-12 or so.  Six years is about the life of a carseat anyway before it expires, so that can work out well.  This all depends on the child's size of cours, but that is about what has worked for us for our average sized children.  One child was not average sized and outgrew seats way faster, so she moved through the seats much quicker. 

I do think the infant car seat can be more cost-effective if you are planning on having multiple closely-spaced children and you can just pass the seat down from one baby to another.  But I never really had that situation.  My children are all spaced further apart, and we've moved frequently, so I've never wanted to actually save car seats that aren't in use. They expire after 6 or so years anyway, so for my sitatuation, I never considered it to be worth the price. 

CONVENIENCE OF THE INFANT SEAT IS VERY SHORT-LIVED: As far as I can tell, the MAIN advantage of the infant seat is that if a baby falls asleep in the car, you can carry them inside and they may stay asleep in the car seat.  Except it doesn't usually work that way once the baby is more than a few months old.   My only real experience using an regular, light-weight infant seat on a regular basis is when I was babysitting full-time last fall.  While the baby used to fall asleep in the car seat quite frequently, as soon I tried to move the car seat, she would wake up.  I'm sure there are some babies that will stay stay asleep in the car seat past the first 3 months or so, but I don't think mine will.   And while most babies will fit into the car seat for about a year, after a few months, they get too heavy to lug around.  Plus, once they learn to sit up and hold themselves up, they are much easier to carry around. I guess some people say it's easier to buckle up in the house, rather than outside in the car, but that seems like a pretty minor thing to me.  We have a big van, so I can actually climb inside it (out of the rain/cold) to do buckling anyway.  You are going to have to buckle them in the car eventually, so why not just start from birth?

Really, I don't care if my newborn or young baby wakes up when I take her out of the car. She'll just fall asleep again shortly.  It's bigger babies and toddlers that I want to stay asleep.  The ones that if they take a short car nap, it will mess up their nap schedule and they will be cranky and overtired and take a weird late nap and then be up late at night. Now if there was a way to carry a 1-year old or 2 year-old inside and have them stay asleep, I would be all over that.   But by the time I really care about naps, the baby is too old to fit into an infant car seat and too heavy to lug around in one, and will likely wake up anyway when I try to move the seat.

I've read people say that they like the infant car seat for eating in restaurants or shopping or being able to just snap the car seat into the stroller.  These are all things I do almost never.  I only use the stroller for actual walks or if we are going someplace (like a zoo) that requires a lot of walking. I have NEVER used it inside a building...ever.  Strollers for me are strictly an outdoor use item.  And it's really not a problem to take the baby out of the car seat and put them in a stroller if we are going on a walk or to the zoo or something. 

Generally, I find it so much easier to just carry baby in a sling for grocery shopping, or going to Mass or running errands or whatever. 

And by the time a baby is 5 or 6 months old, they can usually sit in a high chair at a restaurant or are happy to sit/lie on the floor, so really it's easy enough to just carry them and set them down on the floor while I do stuff. 

Babies Shouldn't Spend Too Much Time in Car seats Anyway.  That is what they say. And I do think infant car seats are a contributing factor to flat-head syndrome if they are overused. Not that everyone who uses them, overuses them, of course.  Many people use them just fine.  However, it does make sense.  If the baby isn't actually sleeping, I DO think it is better for the baby to be held and carried in a sling and able to be in a more upright position, rather than lying in a car seat.  Even if I were to actually have one of those super chill babies (doubtful) that was content to just lie around in a car seat while awake, it's probably not that good for them anyway.    Really, they are meant to be used when riding in the car and that's it.  So, that's pretty much what we use them for. 

Those are my reasons for bucking the trend and skipping the infant carseat.  Anyone else skip them and just go straight to a convertible?  And of course, if you love the infant car seat and use it, good for you.  I do think that for certain families it does make sense.  It just doesn't really make sense for mine.

Monday, May 23, 2016

How We Choose Baby Names...Guess our Baby's Name

There was an article posted awhile back about how with Catholic Baby Names, Old is the New New.


Well, we aren't hip and we don't name our babies like that. 

Some people choose family names.  Some people choose saint names.  I'm not worried about choosing a saint name because just about every name is a saint name or derivative thereof. 

We just choose names that we like and we have a few rules.  And the rules are different for boys versus girls.  

The names of our born children are:

Heidi Marie (patron saint = St Adelaide)
Greta Marie (patron saint = St. Margaret)
John de la Croix (patron saint = St. John of the Cross)
Elsa Rose (patron saint = St. Elizabeth)

Girl Rules:

-Must be Germanic/Swedish sounding to go with our last name
-Must not be too common, must not have been in the top 100 most popular names in recent years.
-Must not be so unusual no one has ever heard of it.
-Must be a real name...no made up names.
-Must pass the substitute teacher test.  In other words, it must be easily recognizable/pronounceable and spellable.
-Must not be too weird or remind someone of a female wrestler (ie. no Helga).
-Must not have too many "L" sounds.  That one is my husband.  He doesn't like names with a lot of "L's" so no Lilly or Leslie here.
-Must have between 2 - 3 syllables.   
-Must not have been the name of a "bad" student my husband once had (that's a teacher problem). 
-Must not have any insults that go with it or be a name people would make fun of.
-No feminized versions of boys names (no Josephines over here)
-No names that associated with a popular book/movie character.
-Disney must not come out with a new Princess movie a year after our baby is born, thus causing everyone to think of said princess movie when they hear our child's name.   Too bad we don't have an inside track to Disney so we can know about their future princess movies before choosing baby names.  

Here is our own Princess Elsa. Disney hadn't come out with the movie yet when this picture was taken.


Boy Rules:

-Must not be so unusual no one has ever heard of it.
-Must be a real name...no made up names.
-Must pass the substitute teacher test.  In other words, it must be easily recognizable/pronounceable and spellable.
-Must not be too weird or remind someone of a wrestler.
-Must not have an insult that rhymes with it (ie. no Dirk, because it rhymes with jerk) or be a name people would make fun of.
-Must not have been the name of a "bad" student my husband once had (that's a teacher problem). 

As you can see, there are less rules for boys.  For boys, we like common, everyday names.  

Girls are harder to name. 

I'm currently 29 weeks pregnant with our 4th girl.  You can read more here, if you want to know why we find out!   By the time you get to the 4th girl, you feel like you've used all your favorites already. We already have a name picked out and we've even told a few people.   Any one care to make a guess? (No fair guessing, if I know you and already told you).   Anyone care to make any suggestions? Baby's not born yet, so we can still change our minds and I'm still open to hearing suggestions.

How do you choose baby names?  Do you have any weird rules (like the no "L" rule)?? 

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