Sunday, June 15, 2014

The Importance of a Father

Happy Father's Day to all the Dads out there (all three of you who read this blog that this). 

Here is a rare picture of my dad actually smiling in a photo (The photo was taken covertly).

See all that gray hair...that is from all the hours he spent teaching me (and my siblings) how to drive. 

And, all the hours and hours and hours he spent driving us here, there and everywhere.  And, the driving didn't stop when we were adults...he's still spends a lot of time driving...helping us move, driving our stuff around.  He's always been super generous with his time, talent and treasure.  Plus, he's worked hard every spring and summer for the last  40 years or so growing an organic vegetable garden so we could eat lots of vegetables all year long.  I didn't appreciate that when I was a kid, but I definitely do now. 

When I was younger, my parents used to take us on individual dates.  I can remember going to McDonald's with my dad, getting french fries, sitting in the car and eating them (because I was too embarrassed to go inside...heaven forbid anyone actually knew that I had PARENTS) and my poor dad had to suffer through sitting in the car and listening to me talk about The Babysitter's Club, or Sweet Valley Twins.  I'm quite sure he was less than interested in either one of those things.

 He put up with it though and didn't even once try to mention organic chemistry. I bet he is the only dad that used to say things like  "Please pass the triglycerides" at the dinner table.  At least we all know what triglycerides are.  

Despite all his quirkiness (he's most notorious for the multiple sweaters he wears at the same time), he is a great dad!  Happy Father's Day! We love you!

Of course, I also have to say Happy Father's Day to my wonderful husband.

He taught me the importance of a father and how much father's matter.    There is a trend today to say that Father's don't matter.  But, they DO.  They definitely do. My kids definitely relate to my husband differently than they do to me. Boys need a good father to learn how to grow up to be men, and girls need a good father to learn how a good mean treats a woman.    I can definitely see how things break down in society when fathers are absent.  That's not to say that children who grow up without a father can't grow up to be productive, happy, well-functioning members of society.  Of course they can.   But, fathers are important and they do matter. 

My kids have a great father.  He reads them stories, he watches movies with them, he plays Frisbee with them, he takes them to chess club, he listens to them, he teaches them about God and all the things their slacker homeschooling mother doesn't teach them. .  He is more gentle and patient than I am.   There just may, may, may have been one or two times where he had to take over a homeschooling lesson because  their primary teacher was totally and completely OUT of patience.   

Plus he's a hard worker. He worked super hard all this year and instead of taking the summer off, he is taking the bar exam for the second year in a row.  Not because he failed the first time, but just for our sakes, so we can move closer to my family and better home school communities.   Pray for him please...for his bar studies and job search.

Happy Father's Day Ben!  We love you!


Now...because I just can't resist a fun link-up...I'll be joining Kendra again for Answer Me This.

1. What’s something you intended to do today, but didn't?

Well, I'm writing this at 10:00 AM.  The day is still young and hold lots of promise for me to accomplish ALL THE THINGS. I'm so optimistic. 

2. What's your favorite grilling recipe?

We don't have a grill (and have never owned one) so I don't have any grilling recipes.

3. What movie did you see most recently?

Like full-length movie?  It's been so long, I can't even remember.  I mostly just watch shows on Netflix.  Most recently, I'm in the middle of Crossing Jordan. 

4. Would you say your tendency is to over or under react to medical situations?

I overreact in my wild imagination but way undereact in real life.  In other words, I'm pretty much convinced that every little thing is SOMETHING SUPER SERIOUS.  But, I rarely actually do anything about it and seek a doctors consultation.   Because most of the time the logical part of my brain overrides the crazy part and I know that I am WAY OVERREACTING.  For example, I actually spent like 10 minutes last night  reading about children that lock their legs while falling asleep because Elsa did that briefly and it freaked me out. Mostly I found things related to horses....apparently horses do that which is how they sleep standing up. 

Occasionally I overreact so much that I actually do run off to the doctor.  

That happens pretty rarely.. less than once a year. Although this year we actually had TWO sick child visits within the span of a month.  That is  a RECORD for our family...we almost never go to the doctor. One of those visits was totally warranted and it's a VERY GOOD THING we went.  The other visit was totally not necessary as nothing was wrong. 

5. Do you squeeze the toothpaste tube or roll it?

Squeeze.  Do people actually roll it?

6. What are you doing for Father's Day?

Nothing super special...just having steak and mashed potatoes and veggies for lunch.  And, then we made an ice cream cake for dessert. And we'll be packing
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  1. Those were very sweet write ups for Father's Day. Babysitter's Club all the way.

  2. I actually roll -- or I did before I got married and found out that my husband is a squeezer all the way.

    I'm also a bigger fan of TV shows than I am of feature-length films. I like having more time to "get to know" the characters and plot points.

  3. A beautiful post, shows the love that your father had for you and your siblings growing up, and really paints a picture of him as a good person and a great father. An example to many! Thanks for sharing, and for expressing your thoughts on the importance of fathers.


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